50 Ways to Leave Your Lover

Ok, I got only 11.
I read the following article that was about 11 reasons guys break up with women.
http://shine.yahoo.com/channel/sex/11-reasons-he-dumped-you-516033/

Now, I don’t know if the survey they used was answered honestly or not. I can say that I don’t believe it was. I do feel like I want to give my response to the 11 reasons that men supposedly gave for ending a relationship.

I Got Bored: Well, I suppose one can get bored. Being bored isn’t the real reason for the breakup but just the simple way of saying something else. It could be incompatible sex drive, lack of communication, differences in interests, or on of a number of other things that result in the boredom. To me, saying you’re just bored is a cop out.

One of Us Was Too Serious: While I can understand this reason, I have to ask the question; what was the point of becoming a couple in the first place? For me anyway, when you form a relationship, the intent is to get more serious. If you weren’t serious about following through all the way, the relationship should have never been started beyond friends.

Burnout: I can see this happening. Some people in a relationship need space. They need personal time alone and a little freedom to do things without being checked up on all the time. Others need that someone around all the time and to know what they are doing every second they are apart. When these two get together, the one who needs the space will very quickly burn out. Absence makes the heart grow fonder.

I Was Tempted To Cheat: Let’s face it, a guy who uses this excuse is just selfish. He only worries about himself and he just wants to get his rocks off whenever he wants. He may have some standards of behavior that have him against cheating, but basically, he wants to sleep around and doesn’t want an exclusive relationship.

All My Friends Broke Up With Their Girlfriends: And if all your friends jump off a building you would too (and probably the best for the gene pool). What kind of idiot thinks this way? This is just another lame excuse given to avoid what the real problems are.

Divergent Lives: Now this one I can buy as a legitimate excuse. People grow and this growth may be in differing directions. You may grow apart in interests, beliefs, or careers. You could be faced with a once in a lifetime career opportunity and the partner is perfectly fine where she is at and they may decide that they need to go their separate ways. Perhaps one comes to accept a new faith and the other does not like it. Whatever the reason, this does happen and is a real reason people break up.

Feeling Selfish: Well, at least the guy is being honest here. If the guy is simply unwilling to put the other first, the other might just be better off without them in their lives as their needs will never be met. It’s a stupid reason, but at least honest.

I "Misread" My Feelings: This can be common. I think this is the relationship where sex came into the picture early and that was the only real thing the two had in common. They got blinded by the hormones and after a while realized that they were not only just different but maybe couldn’t stand each other. My advice on this, hold off on the sex until you get to know each other. At least don’t base a relationship on the fact that you had sex.

My Friends Or Family Didn't Like Her: Peer pressure. If the family and friends don’t like your partner, they can make the relationship a nightmare and very difficult for growth to occur. All of your energy is spent fighting off attacks rather than on loving your partner. The result is burnout. It has been at least my experience that if the majority of your friends and family dislike her, they might be right.

I Took Her For Granted: Usually I hear this the other way around, being taken for granted. This just may be the male way of turning the argument around to make it her fault. Guys do that sometimes. Sounds to me like she was dumping on him for feeling neglected and taken for granted and he just turned it around as an excuse to get out.

She Was Too Negative: This last one I feel is legit too. There is nothing worse for the ego than to keep hearing about how bad you are and what a failure you are. Men need to have their ego’s stroked and to feel like they are accomplishing things. When constantly berated with the negative, he may just head for the door.